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Wednesday, January 10, 2007

Lab woes

As lab-work is coming back things all look good, HOORAY!

BUT they lost one of Chloe's samples....this is the girl that screamed and screamed and screamed and it took all 4 lab techs to get blood out of her little veins. I am dreading the thought of returning for another draw and hope to do it today as to delay the trauma to both her and me. I just hate the thought of them trying to stick her again and am not sure how to swing the other 3 while holding her down for a couple hours. I suppose it is time to call all those people who have offered to do "anything they can to help." 5 minute warning to not answer your phone gals!

I'd take a whole roomful of screaming 6 year old girls every day for a week over this doom.


*edited to add that the latest blood draw went so smoothly that even the techs were amazed! Two pricks, three tears, no screams and we were done. The culprit of this somewhat more tolerable offense? The blood lab did not lose as in misplace a sample, they simply froze one too many. Go figure.



At 1/10/2007 7:45 PM , Anonymous an adoptee said...

I've been reading your blog through your whole journey and feel its a good thing-to save kids from poverty, and pain- but sadly it seems as if the poverty and pain are being transfered to that of your own children, your birth children. I am an adoptee and promise you my kids have had themed birthday parties since age one- but as many times as i've thought of adopting back i've never thought to do it at my own kids expense. The not allowing relatives to hold and care and love? How can you do this when these are the same people who cared daily for the birth children- what makes them any less of a need for bonding? As for the sickness from easter egg hunts and parties... then how do you expect to run a household with 4 children when you can't do a birthday party for 5 without illness and stress. Grow up and enjoy the beautiful twins but don't forget that the definition of "beauty" as you put it is in the eyes of the beholder and once upon a time it was your other children not being neglected for the selfishness of the attention your are getting from this "God moment" that drove you here- i'm sure this was not meant to be at the expense of the older two. I am very sad to have watched what was in the begining a beautiful blog of a desire and hope for two little children to transfer into tax deductions- and princesses and only desire to promote 2 of the 4- this will only lead to hate and sadness- and it's a lonely world when you don't feel the love and need of your Mommy- I am an adopted child... and I promise you my parents didn't choose me over their birth child nor did they choose that child over me- we were a Family- maybe that should be a definition that you read and learn- not this obsession for seperation and for destroying two perfectly adorable birth children. Think about it and Grow up before the damage you do is unable to be repaired! From an adoptee that's very saddned by you selfishness and need for attention... God bless the family

At 1/10/2007 9:44 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I too have read this blog for several weeks. I have read and listened to your words, Jenn.
I have smiled with you, laughed with you and felt sad with you. You and your husband made a conscious decision to adopt. This is your business. Why in the world would anyone be so cruel? You are one of the people on the web who tries to be encouraging and who lets her light shine. Keep up the the wonderful blog and be assured somebody is obviously having a bad day to leave such a horrible comment I just read. Keep on blogg'n.

Stephanies husband

At 1/10/2007 9:45 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Adoptee,

What kind of person writes such hateful and hurtful remarks to someone they don't even know. You have obviously had a painful experience in your childhood, but to use this forum to vent your emotional issues is totally uncalled for.
If this has in some way, made you feel better, than I feel vey sorry for you.
This is a new experience for Jenn. Her blog is about adoption, so it stands to reason that she would use this forum to speak on that subject.
I only wish you could know that as adoptive parents we can still love our biological children and adoptive children all the same.
Maybe your the one who needs to"grow up".


At 1/11/2007 7:07 AM , Blogger Nicki said...

Jenn - it is clear this person is completely ignorant about attachment and bonding. Also clearly s/he has some issues of their own, still unprocessed, about their own home situation. Please don't let their ignorance touch you or your family. You have done your research, you know exactly what is needed for your girls - ALL FOUR of your girls - and you are a fabulous Mom.

At 1/11/2007 8:36 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I read your blog all the time and really appreciate your views on adoption, bonding, and life in general. I was just thinking the other day how you always find the good in people and situations and never complain. The "adoptee" needs to realize that we are all just doing the best we can; no one is perfect. Besides, what works (or doesn't work) for her family may not be what's best for your family. With that being said, you seem like such a wonderful parent. If I'm half the parent that you are, I'll be delighted!


At 1/11/2007 9:29 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh, Jenn. This must have really hurt your feelings. I know for one that you don't keep your babies from your family. Heck, you don't even keep them from me. I believe that I held and hugged and cuddled and kissed two very adorable and happy and healthy babies just yesterday. I also saw both Grace and Olivia. And Gracie gave us a beautiful ballet performance in which she was the center of attention. Olivia of course was there as well and it's hard to just keep track of that little girl. All of your girls were there and they all had their own time in the lime light. It's always hard adjusting when new children are put into the picture but your girls are doing a wonderful job of it. I really wouldn't worry about it. You know that all of your girls are happy and healthy and safe with you and Brian. Obviously this person doesn't know you nor does she care to. You're doing just fine and so are the girls. The only complaint I have is that I, again, have mistaken Chloe for Aubrey and my crazy mother still knows who is who. So not fair. God bless you and your wonderful family. Martha

At 1/11/2007 12:02 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree, you are a fabulous mom to all of your children, and you have given your bio children the wonderful gift of two beautiful siblings.

At 1/12/2007 2:15 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jenn, I have really enjoyed reading your blog. I too have adopted 3 times and have 3 bio kiddos. My mother told me long ago, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." Maybe this adoptee who posted should think long and hard about this. Bless you and your 4 wonderful girls. Tara

At 1/15/2007 2:14 PM , Blogger TaiwanMommy said...

Hey Adoptee-

If you have a chip on your shoulder go wash it off. Your pathetic attempt to give advice to someone shows me you need to pick up your good book. PICK THE PLANK OUT OF YOUR OWN EYE BEFORE YOU WORRY ABOUT THE SPECK IN JENNS! You are completely unqualified to stand in judgement of a woman you don't know, and using your status as an adoptee to justify your miserable attitude is nothing short of laughable. Judge not, adoptee, unless you want God judging you by the same measures, ie: WITHOUT INFORMATION.
You owe Jenn a big apology, and you own God an explanation as to why you think you are even a tiny bit qualified to speak to one of His children that way under the guise of being a Christian yourself. Don't you realise that we can see you for what you are?
Jenn treated you with far more respect and kindess than you deserved, setting an example you should note.
Jealousy has clearly colored your ability to read, think and hear. You should seek forgiveness and look for peace within your own heart.
You might be able to hide here, behind the anonymous option, but you can't hide from God, who knows who you are and sees the blackness in your heart.
I pray you will turn to Him to find what you need.

(BTW- I'm adopted too..I can't imagine what different it makes..)


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